Tuesday, July 10, 2012

mother mode


The house is too quiet.  My house guests are GONE.  It seems like a whirlwind from the time they honked their arrival until the last air kiss was blown.  Oh how I love this family.  It amazes me how they seamlessly blend in with our brood.  I'd love to catalog the sounds of giggles and shelf them for a day when the "b" word comes up.  There's no time for boredom when the Hutchinson's are here.  We are on the move.




Sunday we hit the beach.  Growing up Midwest girls we don't take the ocean for granted.  Being able to jump in the car, and hear the surf and feel the sand is a luxury I don't think we will ever completely get used to.  The problem with the beach is the inevitable headache involved with that pleasure.



It was 100+ degrees and humid.  Alicia's air conditioning wasn't working up to it's potential.  We packed our ENTIRE house to take out into the gritty sand.  So you can imagine...all of us loaded with towels, bags, coolers, chairs, boogie boards...hair stuck to the side of our faces wet with sweat and then hop skipping on the burning sand to just the right spot.  It's a stressful day. 





But then the beach starts to work it's magic. The sound of the surf starts melting away the tension. The sand instead of feeling gritty starts to feel therapeutic. The warmth dissolves every thought. It usually takes me a bit to start to relax. I don't think I'm high strung or a perfectionist until I get to the beach and then all my quirks starts to become evident. I have to almost talk myself off the stress ledge. You can do this. It's only sand. Don't worry the sticky salty feeling will wash off.  I'm weird that way.




Making time for fun is hard work.  Being a mom is exhausting!!! By the way Alicia's littles call her mother...it's the sweetest thing.  We were in mother mode on steroids this weekend.  You have to be when no honeys are around and it's just you and a carload of young ones. 


So naturally I started analyzing what it means to be a mother? It's staying ahead of the game with meals and rest. It's having a plan "b" ready at any given moment. It's giving equal time and energy to all of them at once. It's trying to not blow your top when you are hot, hungry and tired. It's countless trips to the bathroom. It's sticking up for them when anyone even looks at them sideways. It's affirmation and bear hugs and self sacrifice.  It's teaching manners and instilling values.  It's ________________________...you fill in the blank.



And I'll be honest I don't always get it right. I occasionally ignore. I occasionally snap. I'm not everything to everyone at all times and I can feel like a failure...just like any other mom. 


But then I have to remind myself that He chose me.  Even if I feel like I'm not enough...I am.  I was handpicked.  HANDPICKED to be their momma.  It's the role of a lifetime and I'm doing a pretty good job.  They are so loved.  They are so cared for. 



This gig of motherhood really is just as spectacular and amazing as watching those waves break on the shore. It's just as breathtaking as the sun popping through the clouds.  It's evidence of God's plan in motion.  His creation in all it's glory.  And we are just a tiny little piece of that intricate puzzle that will continue to build for generations to come.  How cool is THAT!




Thanks Alicia for a wonderful memory filled weekend.  You are such a good mother;) 







Have a blessed day.








651.  living within driving distance to the beach
652.  umbrellas
653.  fruit pizza
654.  laughing hysterically in the middle of the night
655.  friends who become family


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40 comments:

  1. Thank you so much for this. I needed to hear it...I was handpicked to be THEIR Mama. I often forget I'm capable beacause He lives in me. He gave these littles to ME! Such an honor, such a huge undertaking. Great post, my favorite so far :)

    XOXO,
    Angie from Ohio/angiepics on instagram

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  2. It's SUCH A HARD JOB. But...handpicked. Love it.

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  3. Hard job & the best job!!!

    Glad you all had so much fun!!!!

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  4. Beautiful post.

    I'm so thankful for my mother. And those women who have been mothers to me. And my dear friends who allow me time with their children since I still long to be a mother.

    Beautiful post.

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  5. I totally get the sand thing... I love the beach, I really do...but could I please sit there and get a pretty tan and read a book without someone walking by and kicking sand onto my sweaty legs?! And how does SOOOO much of it end up in the car?!? I love the idea of the beach, and we lived for a year, by one of the most beautiful beaches ever, in Naples, FL. But I really am a pool girl.

    Enjoy them while their little and you have to keep a plan "b" in mind...before you know it, you'll be planning their graduation parties, and you'll be telling them to text you when they get wherever their driving to...oh girl, just enjoy life before driving. End of story--the hardest/worst part of parenting so far. I guess that means I've been blessed with some pretty awesome girls, but seriously, I could throw up everytime Im a passenger with one of them!! (I wish He'd have handpicked me a good drivers ed teacher!!!! :) )

    So glad you had fun friend time. Thats the best! Going thru your neck of the woods this weekend to visit my mama and daddy for 10 days...I'll give you a honk :) xoxo

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    1. i can't even go there in my mind. scares the crap right outta me!! HONK LOUD:)

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  6. I snap every single day.
    Snap. Snap. SNAP!
    I try not to.
    I pray and ask God to help me and then...
    Naji speaks.
    And I snap.
    : (
    It makes me sad.
    I think you are an excellent mother because you love your girls so much.

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  7. Thank you for sharing this and always being so honest. I needed to hear this. I've been running around like a mad-woman trying to get ready for this trunk show! I'm so excited for the "me time" but I've been neglecting my mothering duties and I'm a stress case to boot. Ugh, finding the balance is the trickiest thing. I see now why you are in no rush to do another one:)

    Thanks again for sharing!
    Special friends are so wonderful. And even more special when they blend into family!

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  8. I love that you know you are doing a good job because they are loved. I tell myself that as long as they know they are loved, the other mistakes I make can be overcome. And then I go love on them.

    I had a mamma moment last night. (Mamma is what my kids call me. I love it.) My littlest hates - HATES! - showering. It was late, she was tired, but she needed a shower. She screamed bloody murder the entire time. IT'S TOO HOT. IT'S TOO COLD. IT HURTS MY SUNBURN. I DON'T WAAAANNNNNT TO TAKE A SHOOOOWWWWEERRRRRR! God gave me at that moment the supernatural mamma ability to shower her with love as well as water. Very quickly.

    Once, when I felt overwhelmed once with my mother load, I found this verse: "He will gently lead the mother sheep with their young. Is.40:11" That encouraged me so much.

    I love the thought of being handpicked for my kids. I love being their mother.

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  9. Perfect time to be at the beach! Richard

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  10. You snap? No way! Haha, you are human. LOVE the blue doo rag. I'm glad you talked yourself into doing the beach. I <3 the beach so much.

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  11. Great post and yes, you were chosen and it is so easy to forget that. Thanks for the beautiful reminder. Even though mine are 36 and 33, I am still their Momma and always will be. It is certainly just as awesome a responsibility as it ever was. Blessings!

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  12. Ah, thank you for the reminder. He DID choose us. Many times, we've been told we are the perfect parents...for our son. After 22 years, I now know why. Love your posts!

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  13. How fun! You girls are cutie patooties. And 'Mother' makes me crack up :)

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  14. you look adorable in that bandana!
    glad you guys had a great week with friends!!!

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  15. I enjoyed your Mother Mode post. Ilove the ocean and although I only live about an hour and 20 minutes away from the nearest beach I go there only 3 times a year max. I love the locean and I enjoy the time I get to spend there. It was nice to see you enjoying your time as the waves roll in and roll back out. I love the smell, the sound and the peace I always feel when I go there. I have got to get there very soon. Love the photos of you.

    Mary

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    1. Mary...20 MINUTES?? Only 3x's a year!!! You need to get your bootie to the beach.

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  16. Great post! Being a mom is always hard...but especially when traveling (and on a hot, crowded beach) and trying to make sure "we're all having FUN, gosh darn it"! (LOL!) I totally get you about the heat and the sand...and I even live here! I try my hardest not to grumble when I feel sand on my bare feet on our bathroom floor. It's a blessing in disguise, but I do have to remind myself of that MANY times daily. Glad to see you enjoyed VB. 32nd St is the most crowded section, LOL, but isn't King Neptune beautiful?!

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  17. THAT is as cool as it gets.

    This Mother stuff.


    And I feel lucky finding the beach at my door...almost. Little sweat...lotsa salt and sand...and gifts from the sea.


    Lovely post, Madame.

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  18. mother...that's me! now you've got my ear tuned to it. never really noticed they called me that before :) they are so gracious to us, aren't they?! i love how being a mom breaks away all the fake...being a mom is REAL! they bring out the best in us(and sometimes the worst, but we won't go there).

    thanks for the awesomely fun weekend again! love all y'alls so much!

    xo,
    me

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  19. Looks like you had a hoot!
    Yeah for girl-time and yeah for motherhood!
    Its all I've ever dreamed of being...a "mother".
    Love it!!
    Hugs!

    Deborah xoxoxoox

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  20. What a great post Becky! I'm pretty sure God had you write that for me. :) Something I needed to hear tonight. Thank you!
    You and Alicia are absolutely adorable! I hope you two bought those trucker hats- hilarious!! I just got back from a beach vacation . . . oh the beach . . . I LOVE it . . . . and struggle with so much of it! The sand OH THE SAND! But I love it more! Glad you girlies had such a great weekend!!

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  21. Looks like you had a great time you two Mothers, over the yearslittle by little you will let go of your need to be perfect in our mothering skills it will all be good.

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  22. ** I just wrote a comment and pressed something??? and it disappeared on me so forgive me if this is comment #2. lol. THis is what I was trying to say...

    I love this post Becky. We are blessed indeed to get to be mothers.
    What a fun time y'all had together! You rocked the bandana.
    And I love the beach... our crew is going in August (Lord willing)
    But I LOVE the sand.. I can't wait to get my toes in it....to sit in it. I don't mind it in my bathing suit or in my hair. Heck....I even love the sand that falls out of our chairs months later when we use them at a ball game or something.
    Call me crazy.

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  23. It's certainly the
    gig of a lifetime
    and one that comes
    with little or no
    education or even
    an instruction manual!
    So mistakes are
    inevitable, but if
    we follow our instincts,
    so is love....and joy.

    Fun weekend!!!

    xo Suzanne

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  24. handpicked. i am turning that word over in my heart. love this, and you.

    have a gorgeous wednesday, my friend.

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  25. So. Stinkin. Jealous!!!! Next time, I'm coming! LOL

    I have to say, I am also jealous of YOUR ocean. We don't have sand- just rocks and we certainly don't swim in ours. Brrrrr! Maybe that's why we go to it more often though.... we do have a big lake and we swim in that though! (It's still a big production though so I know exactly what you mean.) I love that you girls had fun and such cute photos of you guys! Love you so!

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  26. i love this. love that you two have become such fantastic real-life friends, too. you both are beautiful mothers. motherhood is tough - there is no time off. : ) thankful for grace to carry us through!

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  27. I can cry reading this
    I can fit my heart right in the outline of yours
    love your do rag..my kids make fun of me for wearing one
    i swear i have part hippie in me
    oh the raw material of transparency..our God can use that
    for His glory can't He?
    still laughing at your pool story..your gut..and how men seem to
    dismiss our "guts".
    love ya..big hugs. give one to your girlies too. that big
    chick i am quite fond of on instagram;)
    xo

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    1. awww thanks about my big chick. she is the SWEETEST thing and so good with that camera!

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  28. It is SO cool knowing that God hand picked each one of us to be the mother of our own children. Thank you for reminding me of that.

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  29. You guy's are definitely Super Moms...I can handle a little bit of the 100 dgree weather, but put that with humid. Ick!!!!! Still looks like you had a great time. We have yet to go to the beach...perhaps we will make the trip while my son is in the Sierra's! Happy Wednesday! Mica @ The Child's Paper

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  30. Hand-picked... I love it. I always tell my children how thankful I am those God chose me to be their mommy. And I truly am, even when I am "hot, hungry and tired."

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  31. You have such an eloquent way with words and I loved reading this post. I can sooo agree with you about the sand and the fact that it's between my toes or even ON my toes...I would be a bit freaked out and need to wash my feet!!

    Leslie

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  32. Wow Becky ~ love this ~ you are such a great Mama to your girls. Sounds like you guys all had a blast ~ love the beach even with all the sand in all those places where you think how the heck did it get in there!! lol

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  33. sounds like a great time with your friends, despite the sweat, sand & salt! love the colors in your pics, and your inspiration!

    xo

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  34. Pretty, pretty! You two Mothers are so cute! Glad y'all have each other (nope, I don't have an accent....just like saying "y'all" :)

    And wouldn't it be so cool to have that lifeguard stand in a back yard? UGH! Can't wait to be on two feet again to finish yard & home projects I started before the injury!

    Love your profile in the do rag....you have pretty eyebrows, I can tell :)

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  35. My favorite post of yours so far. Thank you, Becky, for the beautiful, honest words about motherhood {moved me to tears}! And yes, the beach does work magic...one of my most favorite places:)

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